Develop Your Own Personal Relationship With God

I cannot stress this enough why we keep seeing so many people being deceived into occult churches today it's because people have become "lukewarm" in the sense that they do not use discernment before entering any church and they do not read the bible. The bible makes it very clear that in the last days many will be deceived. Please for the sake of your own spirituality do not let these false prophets use evil doctrines to deceive you. Have a firm relationship with God and ask the Holy Spirit to discern the scriptures for you, ask the Holy Spirit to order your footsteps in his way. Even the devil used the bible to tempt Jesus. So yes it is possible for a Man or even Woman of God to preach Christ but behind it all such false prophets  twist the scriptures to conform to their own agenda. The devil has no new tricks just new victims. Do not victimize yourself. Stop running from pillar to post, some of you are in pursuit of miracles. Why? is my question to you. That you have breathe running through your nostrils is that not a miracle. Trust me if you go to the hospital and see what people are going through you will thank God everyday for your life. Stop running after miracles if you want God to add miracles, signs and wonders to your life do the NEEDFUL, seek for his Kingdom, seek for a relationship with him, stop engaging in activities that draws him away from you. Once you do this anything you ask he will give them to you as long as you don't pray amidst. Some of you won't do anything without consulting your pastor, why have you allowed your pastor to take the place of God. Your Pastor, Bishop, Father-in-The-Lord or whoever is a human like you and I. God is using them as his mouthpiece but you can also talk to him by yourself and he will answer you. Some of you know deep down within your heart that your leader is in error and rather than you leave or caution such a person with respect you shallow it and continue in ignorance. This generation has no excuse because God has provided everything possible for us to make wise decisions, so if you find yourself in this quagmire ask God to deliver you out of it don't continue to stay in ignorance.
I cannot over-emphasize this enough develop your own personal relationship with God so that you won't be deceived.

Don't Give Up Your Time Will Come

Your time is coming even if it tarries it will surely happen. That job you've been trying to secure you will get it, it's only a matter of time. Perhaps you've been disappointed so many times, one disappointing situation after another. Do not give up it's not the end of the world. Everyone must pass through the storm. Even David, Moses and many others in the bible went through storms, but they did not give up. They trusted in God and he gave them all the Victory. The battle is NOT yours it is the Lord's. Know when to fight and know when to let God fight. If you try to do this on your own you may not get very far. Tell yourself everyday that you will succeed and you will win this battle called "LIFE". Don't let depression suppress you. Read a bible passage everyday to strengthen yourself. Keep working hard while you put God first in what you do and you will win the battle. 
Don't Give up your time will come.

Let it go

   Whatever you feel is holding you back or is bringing back bad memories try as much as you can to let it go. We don't have the power to change the past so why should we keep living in it. Let those past mistakes be the stepping stones to your future. If you need to talk to a therapist or anyone at all please do, get the necessary help that you need. If you don't treat a wound , it won't heal probably and that gives way to all sorts of bacteria which can lead to infections and possibly even death. That's exactly what can happen to a person who refuses to let go of the past. 
  Yes it's easier said than done, I totally agree with you but it's good to start somewhere. You are so much better than what you used to be years ago. That was a different "you", if need be cut yourself away from friends and people who only view you from your past life. Do yourself this big favor and cut these toxins off such people are bad for your spiritual growth. Surround yourself with good people. Don't ever believe that you don't deserve better because you do. You deserve so much better because deep down inside you are a person who is trying to evolve and change for the best. Try not to compare yourself to others because your journey will never be a duplicate to somebody else's. Stay in your own lane and work on being the best version of yourself. The only person I compete with is myself. I want that whatever it is that I have done in the previous years, I have outdone it in my current year. 
I'm not saying that I am not currently passing through some storms because I am, and I believe that everyone is too. It's just that I've chosen to look at it from an optimistic perspective because life is too short. If I spend the remaining years of my life regretting the mistakes I have made and sobbing over the things I didn't get to accomplish I am wasting too much of my precious time. If crying helps you to relieve those feelings then by all means cry but after you shed those tears dust yourself off and try again. The journey isn't over, that's why you're still alive. Keep fighting, keep learning from your mistakes, keep growing and most importantly let go of the chains that are holding you back, be free and let it go.

When a person deceitfully leads you on

I know that this topic is very sensitive so I hope this helps you. Have you been in a situation where you felt betrayed by someone ? like someone got your hopes up but later on turned around and pulled the plug on you? I am certain that you lashed out or you probably fought back and maybe you acted in a way that you later regretted. Truth be told it's natural to feel hurt when you are offended. Especially when a person got your hopes up high for nothing, but let me say this as a friendly reminder to you. Let the Lord avenge for you. What do I mean by this give yourself some time to heal and let those emotions go. The enemy did that to frustrate you and to make you feel like a failure. There is a reason why the bible says that we should pray for our enemies. There is a demon that is responsible for making people do things like that. Remember that the devil is a deceiver. Deception is his trait and if a person does this just know that there is a spirit that is manifesting in that individual. God's thoughts for us are good and not evil. Pray that God opens the eyes of these people who are being used by the enemy and pray that God changes their heart and their mind. Don't carry any evil grudge against them. Remember even while Jesus was painfully dying on the cross, he still asked his father to forgive us because we were in ignorance. These deceivers are not happy within themselves and that is why they do the things that they do. If they had love they wouldn't have done that. Please pray for those that hurt you and forgive them too so that God can bless you and open his window of blessings for you. If you don't forgive you won't be forgiven either. 

Say that a man promised to marry you and he really put your hopes high into the sky and perhaps maybe upon getting to the wedding day he cancels on you. Your family and friends are doing their best to get this man to carry through with the wedding but he refuses. What should you do in this situation.As difficult as it is forgive him and move on. If this man was God's perfect will for you  he wouldn't have done that to you. No man in his right senses will cancel his wedding upon reaching the wedding day. God is saving you from making a terrible mistake. Yes, it is painful that  that this man lead you on and embarrassed you like that, not to mention the amount of money that you invested into your wedding but please give yourself some time to heal, forgive him and move on. God has a better man for you and vice versa. Overtime you will see that such a person will pay for the harm they did to you because whatever a man sows that is what he will reap but nevertheless let God avenge for you. 
And to the people who take pleasure in deceiving others, I want to inform you that it never ends well. This world is very small and you might need that person who you hurt one day. Be good to others so that good can come back to you. Treat others with love and kindness because you, just like me are not perfect and you too can make mistakes. If you have no intentions of helping a person don't lie about it and lead them on just be upfront, because in that same manner that you deceived that person the same will be done to you sooner or later.   

I know it all attitude

    As long as we are on this earth nobody knows it all. It doesn't matter how many degrees you have or even what you have accomplished all those things are good and fine, but truth be told you can't  know everything. We learn new things everyday as we grow and as we live. When a person has an " I-know-it-all attitude they feel that there is nothing they can learn from anybody and they feel  attacked when the things they say are questioned or disproved. Such people don't like to be corrected and don't like to make amends. Let me use an incident that happened this evening as an example. 
    I  joined a group on Facebook, on this group we share our opinions, thoughts and insights on the things of God and life too. One of the moderators of this group made a comment that I didn't agree with. He said that a person is not eligible to marry God's will if their name is not written in the book of life. I then asked where this was written in the bible and he was not able to tell me where he got that from. Another person attempted to explain what he said and even brought out some bible passages,  but none of them had anything to do with the question I asked. The person made a few attempts but was not able to provide the scriptures I requested for. The moderator later stated that he doesn't like it when people actually know the truth but would rather dance around it. How have I danced around the truth when I am seeking for the prove? This doesn't surprise me, when a person is used to praises and a person comes to question what they mean this is normally the kind of response they give. I am sorry but I am a factual person and to be frank I could really care less about how long a person's journey has been with God. If you are in error then you are in error! you can't right a wrong. Error can happen to anyone regardless of  your age.
 When someone politely explains how they don't see eye to eye with your point of view you reason with them until they do or you leave them be. And if you are at fault why not take the necessary steps to correct your mistake you are not perfect and neither am I. This is a big issue that we have today in Christianity as a whole. Nobody likes to take correction but we sure love to dish it.
    I prefer facts to sentiments any day. Many ministers have made this error of telling people what they feel verses what the word of God actually says. The Word of God is the bedrock of our salvation not our sentiments. I have nothing against a person using their own personal feelings towards a situation because after all we are humans, but please don't use your sentiments to misconstrue the bible and what it stands for.  Nowadays when God sends a person to correct a minister, pastor etc instead of them to reflect on what was said and make the necessary changes they will  begin to pick offense and/or make up something to justify their error. Where is the fear of God? Where is the humility that they preach of?
   There is nothing in the bible that says you cannot marry God's perfect will if your name is not written in the book of life, this is what the moderator believes but that's not what God said. If God said so show me where and if you cannot show me then it means that it's not there. Let's not get into the habit of putting words in God's mouth. When God shines the light he shines it on both the wicked and the righteous he is not partial. To say that God only gives his perfect will in marriage to those whose names are in the book of life, then what about those who are yet to know about him? will he elude them as well.  If that's the way a person sees God then it saddens me and  perhaps they haven't read the bible well enough to understand who God is and how he works. I have heard about how a couple (unbelievers)  got married and how they both  repented and are now devout believers working in the vineyard of Christ. Now will you say that these people are not under God's will? so how then can this moderator say that they are not eligible for marriage because their names are not in the book of life. These people are now new creatures in Christ old things are past away God can perfect them because nothing is impossible with God.
   Even after I gave this reference he went on to say that there is no way that their marriage can be the same as a person who sought God before marriage. They both sought God whether a man did it before he was married or after he sought God and found him.
Romans 9:16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth but of God that sheweth mercy. I honestly thank God that he didn't make us the final judge because if that had been the case nobody would be saved. This is what the bible says about marriage. Hebrews 13:4A KJV Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. Marriage is honorable to God because it fulfills his desire for us to replenish the earth and many other reasons too. Lest I digress, my topic today is on the I-know-it-all attitude, I was rather disappointed in how the moderator was nonchalant about what he said even when he had no proof to back it up. He is not perfect so I am not holding this against him. I believe God allow this to happen so that I can shed light on this issue and share it with others. As Christians let's refrain from behaviors like this. Let the bible be your guide, yes it's okay to add your two cents as long as it's in conjunction with the word of God. If you add anything else that is contrary to it then it's false, that is a false gospel, stick with the word of God let the bible be your reference point. SHALOM

You Can't Trap a Woman For So Long

As most of us know in this day and age feminism, the fight for equal rights etc is on the rise. Many homes are being broken as a result of many things. In spite of all these things there is something that I have acquired over a period of time. A WOMAN CANNOT BE TRAPPED FOR SO LONG. Here is the link to one of my previous posts about the impossibilities of trapping a man. 
                     you-cant-trap-man.html
 There are some women that are in abusive relationships and are afraid for their lives. It is only a matter of time before she will gather the strength to leave. Unfortunately a lot of men were not raised with good father figures so it's no surprise to me why some men are monstrous and abusive. Let me share this with you. Ephesians 5:25 KJV Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church. How can you as a man actually say you love your wife or your woman and you abuse her. You shouldn't hurt the ones you claim to love. Let's take for instance if she did something that annoyed you there are ways to handle the situation. Imagine if God beat you up for every little mistake you made will you still be alive? Let's be real with ourselves you might feel that you are the man and yes you are there is no question about it,but if she is only staying with you because of fear I want to inform you  that that isn't love and that is not God's definition of love. Love is not oppressive, neither is love defined as living in bondage and in fear. Some men take advantage of the fact that we women are feeble hearted. Meaning that we feel deeper with our emotions, there is a breaking point. There is a point where we have taken up so much hurt and have reached a point where we will no longer tolerate it and that's where the strength to leave comes in. 
 Let's turn this table for a minute. If you  are an  abusive woman because believe it or not women can be abusive too, you need to respect your husband/ your man. If he isn't treating you right why are you still with him? Why do you continue to put yourself into such misery.  Honestly speaking if you both feel that the best way to communicate is through violence, then it clearly shows that you both either came from broken homes or didn't have people to show you what true love is. If you strongly believe that you both have a  love worth fighting for, why not look for ways to resolve your issues? Go for counselling, talk to a trusted relative, mutual friend, pastor etc. Listen if you need to take a break there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes a healthy time away from each other can help you to articulate your thoughts and actions better. Take a healthy break for the sake of your sanity. If you have an abusive man, please do what King David did when Saul was after his life .. flee for safety. 
I don't care even if he comes back crying and telling you that he is sorry, that man has a violent spirit in him and i'm sorry to say this he will abuse you again. Don't go back until he gets the help he needs.  He shouldn't hit you neither should you hit him. You both should submit to yourselves and resolve your issues without letting things get violent. The book of Ephesians 5: 22 says Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Don't let these reality shows cloud your reality. Violence is never the solution in a relationship. Some men believe that getting a woman pregnant is another form of trapping her. Sure enough it means that you will always be in her life but that's only by default, for the child's sake. If a woman decides that she has had enough of the things that you have put her through she will leave and never look back, that is of course if she has really had enough. Some men use money as a leverage to trap a women, please ladies we need to do better. There are good quality jobs out there! let's get busy and fend for ourselves. Too many women these days are looking for men who will give them money at there disposal without putting in any work. Do this for yourself and your children : GET A JOB!! don't depend on anyone for anything except God. Don't let anyone demean you or devalue your true worth. So to sum this all this all up. You can't trap a woman, if she is fed up with you and done with the things you have put her through she will leave.

Only My Heart

How would you feel if you went to a doctor's office and while you're waiting you see a mechanic dressed in a doctor's coat calling in patients to be seen? How would that make you feel? Remember this is a certified mechanic so you know good and well that this is not a doctor and under the law a licensed person in the medical profession ( doctor,nurse etc) are the only ones who are permitted to  perform the clinical routines on you. If you ask me I wouldn't be happy at all because this mechanic is not a doctor is not permitted by law to see or even call in patients. Now image how God feels when we misrepresent who he is on earth. Imagine when someone who is in error attempts to justify it by their words.  We are the bible that the world sees and if they cannot see Christ in us it defeats the purpose of being a Christian. In today's world nobody really likes owning up to their faults or mistakes, we like to profess that God looks at my heart. If God was to show you what he sees in your heart, what does he see? I can dress in whatever way that I want God looks at my heart, I can steal and there is nothing wrong with it because God looks at my heart. Stop making excuses to justify sin, God made it very clear that a person who hides their sin cannot prosper. Proverbs 28:13 KJV He that covers his sins shall not prosper: but whosoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy.
 That is why we really need to strive to make it to Heaven. Look at what the bible  says about getting into the Kingdom of God. Luke 13:24 KJV Strife to enter in at the strait gate for many, I say unto you will seek to enter in and shall not be able. We all need to examine ourselves time after time to be sure that we are doing what pleases the Lord before we go. God looks at your heart that's very true but what shows up on the outside is a reflection of what's going on inside.

Pulling Others Down

   You can't win when you play this kind of game. I am yet to see a person land successfully after pulling people down. For a moment it seems as if this individual is winning, but overtime everything starts to crumble. How you obtained it could also be the way you lose it.

AN EXAMPLE OF PULLING A PERSON DOWN: You see a friend of yours getting into a clothing business. So far your friend is doing a tremendous job, now envy starts to creep into your veins and everything your friend does is annoying to you. In the process of all this you start to tell people to stop buying anything from her store, to add more salt to the injury you begin to fabricate rumors about your friend so that you can destroy her image. Shortly after this something within you starts to tell you that the time has come for you to start your own clothing business. These are examples of pulling a person down and operating with the Jezebel spirit.I'm sorry if this offends you but it's the truth and if you find yourself doing this please ask God to remove this spirit from you. Seek help in every good way possible, if you need to speak to a therapist please do, if you need to speak to a trust-able companion please do, If you need to pray and fast about it then please do. This behavior never ends in a good way, you can never win by pulling others down.
 Proverbs 14:30 KJV
A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones. The spirit of envy rottens the bones.


 THERE IS ROOM FOR EVERYBODY! Please remember that this world is big enough to contain everyone, don't become envious of your friends' success or anybody's for that matter, your own time is coming. Work hard, put God first in what you do and he will supply every other thing that you'll need.
          You don't know what that person went through to get to their peak of greatness
You were not there to see the blood, sweat and tears, so why envy him or her? With God there is a time for everything, your hour hasn't come yet, so just be patient and get busy as well. Covetousness is EVIL, it makes you devalue everything you have and love what others have. I am speaking in general terms whether you are a Christian, Atheist, Muslim etc or not. Learn to love what you have and cherish it, and learn to work hard for the things you don't have so that you too can have it. You can achieve greatness without having to pull anyone down. We work better together than when we work alone. If only humanity can understand this concept this world will be a much better place to live in.
THE REPERCUSSION OF PULLING A PERSON DOWN: The dangers of doing this can be explained better with the scriptures, look at what happened to Jezebel after all her evil deeds spilled over. In shorter words, it back fires and comes back in 7-folds. Save yourself from the wrath that comes with pulling others down. Let's act with love and kindness it pays to be good.