As most of us know in this day and age feminism, the fight for equal rights etc is on the rise. Many homes are being broken as a result of many things. In spite of all these things there is something that I have acquired over a period of time. A WOMAN CANNOT BE TRAPPED FOR SO LONG. Here is the link to one of my previous posts about the impossibilities of trapping a man.
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There are some women that are in abusive relationships and are afraid for their lives. It is only a matter of time before she will gather the strength to leave. Unfortunately a lot of men were not raised with good father figures so it's no surprise to me why some men are monstrous and abusive. Let me share this with you. Ephesians 5:25 KJV Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church. How can you as a man actually say you love your wife or your woman and you abuse her. You shouldn't hurt the ones you claim to love. Let's take for instance if she did something that annoyed you there are ways to handle the situation. Imagine if God beat you up for every little mistake you made will you still be alive? Let's be real with ourselves you might feel that you are the man and yes you are there is no question about it,but if she is only staying with you because of fear I want to inform you that that isn't love and that is not God's definition of love. Love is not oppressive, neither is love defined as living in bondage and in fear. Some men take advantage of the fact that we women are feeble hearted. Meaning that we feel deeper with our emotions, there is a breaking point. There is a point where we have taken up so much hurt and have reached a point where we will no longer tolerate it and that's where the strength to leave comes in.
Let's turn this table for a minute. If you are an abusive woman because believe it or not women can be abusive too, you need to respect your husband/ your man. If he isn't treating you right why are you still with him? Why do you continue to put yourself into such misery. Honestly speaking if you both feel that the best way to communicate is through violence, then it clearly shows that you both either came from broken homes or didn't have people to show you what true love is. If you strongly believe that you both have a love worth fighting for, why not look for ways to resolve your issues? Go for counselling, talk to a trusted relative, mutual friend, pastor etc. Listen if you need to take a break there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes a healthy time away from each other can help you to articulate your thoughts and actions better. Take a healthy break for the sake of your sanity. If you have an abusive man, please do what King David did when Saul was after his life .. flee for safety.
I don't care even if he comes back crying and telling you that he is sorry, that man has a violent spirit in him and i'm sorry to say this he will abuse you again. Don't go back until he gets the help he needs. He shouldn't hit you neither should you hit him. You both should submit to yourselves and resolve your issues without letting things get violent. The book of Ephesians 5: 22 says Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Don't let these reality shows cloud your reality. Violence is never the solution in a relationship. Some men believe that getting a woman pregnant is another form of trapping her. Sure enough it means that you will always be in her life but that's only by default, for the child's sake. If a woman decides that she has had enough of the things that you have put her through she will leave and never look back, that is of course if she has really had enough. Some men use money as a leverage to trap a women, please ladies we need to do better. There are good quality jobs out there! let's get busy and fend for ourselves. Too many women these days are looking for men who will give them money at there disposal without putting in any work. Do this for yourself and your children : GET A JOB!! don't depend on anyone for anything except God. Don't let anyone demean you or devalue your true worth. So to sum this all this all up. You can't trap a woman, if she is fed up with you and done with the things you have put her through she will leave.
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