Know when to speak and when not to speak

Even till this day I struggle with this because often times there are moments when I want to give a person a piece of my mind. But there is something that Jesus taught me and I hope you can take this with you. It's not everything that you must respond to and that's a fact. Some people are naturally negative so no matter what you do it's never good enough for them. There are some people that whatever you give them they love it no matter how big or how small it is. This life is filled with many things both good and bad. It's up to an individual to choose how they want to live their life. Unfortunately, in this generation we have so many pastors,minsters etc  that are in error and have become too pompous to be corrected. Many of them have misrepresented what the church is about and what it stands for. This makes it difficult to evangelize. A Muslim once said to me " you Christians have too many fake pastors". I agreed with him because he was right but deep down within me I was sad because we being the "church" have not represented Jesus in a good way at all.
I told him however that I don't depend on these pastors for miracles or signs of any sort, if you do what God tells you to do you will be blessed whether a man of God says it or not. That my friend is a fact. Too many people have become so dependent on the man of God instead of God himself.

There is a church that I used to attend, that is being attack by a lady who uses her forum to expose churches. There are some things that she says in general that I agree with and some that I do not agree with. As a response to what she said , I saw a few Facebook posts from the members of the church in regards to what their church stands for. All I can say is this " know when to speak and when not to speak". If you know deep down within your spirit that you are doing the right thing, you don't need to respond to any negative backlash leave them be. God who sees what is happening will handle the situation for you and trust me with God, he has many ways to deal with an individual.That is why he is the Almighty God.  There are people that the devil is using to distract the body of Christ don't be deceived or carried away when you see this going on. Stand firm on the word of God and he will surely bring you out of that situation. You don't have to drag it out with them even when they might say things that are offensive just say what you need to say and leave it there, and depending on the situation you don't need to say a word. 

False/Fake People ( False Prophets)

  In this day and age we need to be spiritually and physically alert. We need a "discerning spirit" to be able to identify the real from the fake. The bible makes it very clear that in the last days these train of events will happen. 1. The Love of many will wax cold- are we not seeing these things with our eyes? racism, police brutality, wars and rumors of wars (World War III) etc. This should not be shocking to you if you read your bible and mediate on what the Word of God says.
 2. Perilous Times will come we are seeing these come in forms of earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, Hurricanes, outbreaks of airborne and contagious diseases, food prices increasing, poverty etc. The list goes on if you read the Book of  II Timothy 3:1-7. My topic for today is on two types of people the false prophets that we see here presently and fake or false people. What does it mean to be fake? Fake simply means not genuine, counterfeit. There are many people who pretend and love to put up a false image of what they are  NOT. Remember I mentioned earlier that because of the things that are happening in this generation we need discernment and your gut feeling may not be sufficient enough because even as human beings we can be deceived. Fake people are people who pretend to like you or get close to you to destroy you or take something you have. The devil is not going to appear to you like a beast, because if he shows his true image many of us will run away from him and avoid him. So because the devil wants to trap as many people as possible,he has disguised himself as an angel of light. Let's read what the bible says : 2 Corinthians 11:14-15 KJV

And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.

15 Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works.  

This is where the second part comes in. He has people that are working under him and some of them are seen on a regular basis. Most of them mount up on the pulpit to give sermons every Sunday and even other days of the week. Some of their congregants put on the image of righteousness but the things they do behind closed doors are worse than those who are  proclaimed SINNERS. I will not use this platform to expose or exploit anyone's name or ministry because at the end of the day God will be the final judge and they will answer to God on that day of Judgement. The ONLY exception to this is if God and him ONLY instructs me to expose them or something they did for the sole purpose of saving his children from being victimize by  lies and deception, and should I ever say anything about them it is not to bring them down or  judge them it is to correct with love and inform others in like manner  otherwise you will not see me mention names of any pastor, minster etc who is actually working with the devil, because in due time God will expose them. I want to advise all of you to use discernment when you see these things happening and when you see such people. Like I  have told you with celebrities and I will tell you also for these false prophets and people, pray that Jesus Christ through his redemption power will bring these people out of darkness and back into his glorious light. If you can reach out to them and that's if you can .. TRY and tell them this message with love. I'm all for peace and love in Christ. Share this with others Thanks.

The Wedding Day and The Marriage

The picture and the picture frame is the best definition of the wedding day and the marriage. The wedding day being the picture frame and the marriage being the picture. A lot of people will be surprised to find out that this false depiction of marriage and sometimes even wedding days thanks to movies, romance books and films is not what it's made to look like. "Marriage is sweet when you are married to the right person".

 That's a fact! a lot of people get caught up in the wind of being a bridezilla and having an over-the-top  fairy-tale wedding that they tend to forget the "Picture" which is the marriage. As a woman, the day you decide to accept this man's proposal everything changes, you are about to step into a new stage that will change your life either for the better or the worst. Don't just think about the over-the-top wedding, because truth be told it's only for one day, except if your culture requires you to do two like mine. Well irrespective of that it's only two days or one and it's over! it will become a blessed memory to you and your spouse and possibly your extended and blended family. Think ahead, think about how many children you plan to have, think about your health, think about your future goals and be sure that you are making the right decisions. Another reality is that everything has it's stages during that bridezilla moment you're probably on cloud nine, your wedding day could not come any faster, this man is thee most perfect man you have ever met and you can' wait to say "I do". As for the groom this is the greatest day of your life, you are about to marry your "dream girl", but after a couple of years reality creeps in responsibilities are piling up and the "i love you so much" stage has faded and what do you have left? If you're only interested in the wedding and not the marriage then you have missed the whole point. The wedding is just the picture frame, your marriage is the picture.  Please remember this, make sure that you are marrying the right person that God has set aside for you. Read your bible closely and examine the life of King Solomon, King Ahab and Samson. These were all anointed men hand picked by God, but the partners they all choose to marry or (concubines)  destroyed and tarnished their legacy. Don't get caught up in her curves and her beauty like Samson did. His lust for strange women is what killed him.  The body changes, especially for women after pregnancy, she may not be the "full packaged lady" she once used to be and  ladies overtime he may not be the "handsome six packed man" that he once use to be once upon a time. Let your reasons for marriage be deeper than looks and money. These things can easily fade away.  Be with this man because God hand picked him to be a blessing in your life and no matter what may happens come rain or shine stand by him, allow God to use him to beautify your life, you don't have to wear the trousers in the house to be respected. Be with this woman because God has selected her to be your helpmate she is there to help you, she is the one that will bring life to your future children so cherish her, even when her body changes and she may not look like she once did before you married her. Stand by each other, even when things no longer look like the "picture frame" the wedding day because it's much bigger than your wedding day, it's your marriage. Remain Blessed.

You can't trap a man

   In this post today I will be talking about the impossibilities of trapping a man. In my next post I will be talking about the impossibilities of trapping a woman. Why is it impossible to trap a man? A man will only stay with a woman if he truly wants to. First of all there has to be something about this woman that makes it hard for him to walk out irrespective of the situation. A lot of women have this notion : "Once I have sex with him, there is no possible way that he will leave me". I want to inform you that that's a lie. Should you decide to deny your husband of sex, depending on the kind of man he is, he will find another woman who will be more than willing to give it to him and that's just a fact.  Even if your man is thee most faithful husband in this world , even if he is a Godly man and a heavily anointed man at that, he will at some point have sex with another woman should you deny him of it, except if God chooses to intervene and he decides to listen to God. At the end of the day he is flesh and blood.

    Another common deception that a lot of women believe : "Once I have his babies there is no way that he will leave me". Ladies, we no longer live in a generation where men are ashamed of having children out of wedlock. We no longer live in a generation that covers up for unwanted pregnancies through marriage. If you get knocked up by this man he can still leave you for another woman or even women depending on the kind of man you have. So allow me to put it this way, you can do everything in your ability to keep a man, but if he cannot find any virtue in you and if you are not giving him a reason to continue on in the marriage/relationship he will leave regardless of whether he has kids with you or not. This includes Breadwinners who are women (financially speaking). Think with your brain don't always think with your heart. The heart tends to make us overlook situations that we should actually be focused on due to our emotions and feelings.
    What was your reason for being with him in the first place? Is it because he makes money? If it's because of money try your best to find a job and  make your own money don't use any man as a leverage. If you depend solely on a man for his income, he can decide to use that to control you. Try your best to fend for yourself, you can let your husband spoil you I am not against that, but don't solely depend on him for everything. Did you decide to be with him  because of the way he looks? Beauty fades and good looks fade too, nothing lasts forever. Don't let his attractiveness on the outside blind you from his ugliness on the inside.
   If this man is attractive but he genuinely doesn't love you, it doesn't matter what you do to trap him, this man will not stay. Is it because of the way he pleases you sexually? What people fail to understand is that sex is a bond between your soul and your body, you shouldn't give that up to anybody except if it's your husband or wife. That's the way God designed it. I am not judging you if you made mistakes in the past and even if you are currently struggling with it now, if you decide to start on a fresh new leaf with God he will forgive you!! Just keep trying until you break free from this sexual addiction, the Lord is your strength. I had a good friend of mine who removed sex from her relationship and things shortly ended between them. He moved on with another lady and so did she with another man. Why is pre-martial sex dangerous, it can cloud your thinking. There are many people today that only got married to their partners because they were so "good in bed" forgetting that marriage isn't only about sex. The dangerous of pre-martial sex is a conversation for another time. In Summary you really can't trap a man, a man will only stay if he wants to and if there is something about you that he can't find in another woman.

My FeedBack

So I came across a post that if you ask me in my honest opinion was baseless and not sensible. So in this post the author said "Beloved Lady, Don't be fooled. Don't block
your future husband plzzzzz.
Your boyfriend is not your husband!" Listen ladies men like this are egocentric and believe that they are the best option that you will ever come across, avoid such men. Any man that does not respect your current relationship, will do the same thing with a another lady if you decide to be in a relationship with him. Let's read further into what the author said "A guy approached you for a relationship,and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend',boyfriend ke? Its very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a guy asks you out." First of all there is nothing wrong with telling a man that you are already in a committed relationship, so that he knows from the onset that there can be nothing past a friendship. Would this author like it if  another man wants to be "friends" with his girlfriend? or take his future wife- to- be away from him? I am not referring to just a friendship , but the kind that can lead to a relationship. Let's be real we know how possessive men can be so why would he think that it's wrong to set the record straight from the onset? 

Then he goes on to say "A guy met a Lady of 27 years he really

admired, he asked her out and she boldly told him, 'no! Using the word "I have a boyfriend!' "
Jesus! A boyfriend at 27 years? What's wrong with that? everybody's timing is not the same, that's what people fail to understand I have a friend who got married to her longtime boyfriend and they have been dating since 7th grade. They didn't get married until she was 28 or perhaps 27 years old. Age truly doesn't matter some people are forty and act worse than a three year old, it's about maturity, financial ability, emotional stability as well as the individual's spirituality. The post goes on a little bit more but I won't say much more about it. What I will say is this your timing is not the same with everybody's, there is a reason why when you are about to run in a race, you are advise not to look at your competitors. Stay in your own lane and finish your race well.

The 80/20 Program (Women)

If you haven't already please take the time to read my last post titled The 80/20 Program (Men), link below: 
The 80/20 Program (Men)
 The 80/20 program is an agenda manufactured from the enemy (the devil) to have you look down or lose interest in the man you are with for another man who seems to be better than the one you are currently with. Why is your man an "80" and not a"100"? Well, let me put it this way your man is not perfect, yes he was perfectly designed for you, but he's not perfect, he does however comes close to it. Look at what the enemy does, he begins to make you believe that your man is not good enough for you anymore. Perhaps he lost his job, health, or even his mind and now you are left with no choice but to double up to compensate for him. Let's be real, this period can be very stressful and take a negative toll on  you as a woman and this is completely understandable, but look at what you need to know "this too shall pass", if your husband needs your help, then please do the best you can to help him find a job. He may be finding it difficult to tell you because men tend to feel hopeless and useless when they cannot provide for their families, now please note that I am referring to "men of true integrity", because unfortunately we live in a generation filled with deadbeat fathers and men who are "words that are not appropriate for this blog post", so I am making reference to the real men out there who are going through some tough times and are struggling to hold it down for their families and even themselves. If you unfortunately married a lazy man be his help mate, put him to work, help him to find a job, speak words of life to him and pray for him and with him.Please do this with love and understanding, you don't know the power  you have as a woman, you can either lift this man or tear him apart. You may notice that during this period you will start to feel very vulnerable and you definitely be in search of  someone to talk to.
But  guess who the enemy will send your way? A man who fits your exact description of a "real man", this man being the "20" looks great, he smells wonderful, he speaks so eloquently, has a great job that pays him a lot of money, he has a nice house and is a great cook, he takes you out to any restaurant you want, he shows you so much love and affection all the things you wish your husband would do and more, now he tells you that you deserve better and that you should leave your husband for him. In this case, you are moved by his words and enticed by all the things he has done for you and to you. Sooner or later you begin to justify yourself , and take in all the things he has said because you deserve better, one night won't hurt okay maybe even thirty more nights of sinful lust  after all if your husband was doing what he was supposed to do you wouldn't be doing this. You may be right, your husband should man up and do what he is supposed to do and he failed, but do two wrongs make a right? the next thing you know you are having an affair. You are engaging in an act that not only is a sin against your husband and yourself but also against God. This is what the devil does to trap women and to keep further away from God because of guilt. Adultery is exactly what has happened in this situation and by doing this you have given the devil the leverage to control your mind, your body and your soul. Once this man gets what he really wants from you he will leave you and move on to the next woman, leaving you with a broken-heart and in some cases with an incurable disease (STI). Now to those who may argue, well I've experienced this situation and the man didn't leave me he is the best thing that happened to me, allow me to say this and I say this with respect that man still won't compare to the 80 you once had you might think that the 20 that you're with is the best but that's only because you gave up on trying to harness the 80 that you had. I am making reference to the women who actually married the right person but winded up with the wrong results. God doesn't give you challenges that you can't handle. In moments when things get difficult we have the tendency of losing hope and forgetting the good times.Why do this kind of thing to yourself, is it worth the pain? remember there was once a time that you loved your husband so much that you couldn't simply imagine living life without him. Times and seasons may cause feelings and things to change, but don't let that affect the love you once shared with each other. Even if you do lose love for each other, because these things do happen try to make things work, strife to win each other back . Ladies pray for your husband, he needs you more than you may ever know. Men have the tendency to mask their feelings so that they don't appear to be weak but deep down inside they have hidden feelings too. Don't leave your man (80) for a temporary fling (20). If he's making an attempt to be better encourage him, if he feels like he can't do it, make him feel like he can. Don't forget what you told God on the day you said I do ", on that day of judgement God will play back the oath you made and will check to see if you fulfilled it that's why marriage should be taken very seriously.

To The Women who are engaged or are in a relationship? 
In this case scenario you are in a much better position because you can choose to leave if you notice that something isn't adding up or if you are feeling overwhelmed. This period is the most crucial time because this is the decision-making stage. Please make sure that you don't let anything cloud your judgement and both of you should stay true to yourselves, so that there aren't any surprises after the two of you shared your vows. During this time  pray and seek the Lord to confirm what his " perfect will" is for you ,that is of course if you really want to. If God is showing you signs that he is not good for you, please do yourself and your future generation a favor....... LEAVE!!!
Bad marriages do not have a sweet-endings attached to it, leave before it's too late. Don't be easily  deceived and distracted, there are probably going to be other men that want you too irrespective of whether you are engaged, in a relationship or not. During this time the devil loves to send "mirages" and most especially to  materialistic women. Please look beyond his car, his body, his money and material things, actually know for sure if this man is the one for you before making any lifetime commitment. Avoid distractions and distractors focus on your future with your husband- to- be, don't leave him for those mirages that appear to be real, when in reality it's fake, only leave because God is telling you that he is not the one for you otherwise you may end up in a really bad marriage. Remember that the "20 man" has no true intention of staying committed to you, he probably wants you for your body, money, vulnerability etc. You deserve better  and that "80" (your man) is the best gift that God has given to you, now that depends on whether you are married according to God's perfect will. So make the best out of it.Even if you married under his "permissive will" make the most out of it. If found this post helpful share it with others.       
  Remained Blessed.

Judging vs Correcting

Let's define these two words for a minute, what does it mean to correct
According to dictionary.com, correct means free from error, in accordance with fact or truth, put right. The definition of judging- form an opinion or conclusion. Urban dictionary defines judging as the act of putting a person down, regarding a person as an inferior.
Many people in today's world have this new catch phrase "stop judging me". Since I have taken out some time to define what it means to judge let me ask this question. If I see a person today and I see this individual smoking a cigar and I walk up to her/him and say  hey why are you smoking, don't you know it's bad for you? have I judged the person?
Some might say "Yes" reason is because I don't know this person on a personal level and it is not in my place to walk up to this person and ask them anything or tell them what to do and what not to do.
Some might say "No" reason is because I asked a question and simply did this out of concern. We live in a society where we only care about ourselves, we no longer take time out to look out for each other. If my main objective was to judge this individual I wouldn't have asked why this person was smoking or have mentioned that it is bad for him/her I would have simply said "you're a bad person for smoking, because you don't even realize what you are doing to yourself, you don't realize how you are slowly dying and you're probably not thinking about how this will effect your loved ones, you must be a selfish human being for smoking". By saying this I have judged this individual spitefully and should I have said that I would have displayed a false depiction of  God's love. God did not call us to condemn he called us to correct others with love, to lift others up, to share his gospel that he has died to save us from our sins and to show a true example of what being his child on earth truly is.
 I once had a person who I was friends with on FaceBook ( few days ago) and I noticed how he kept posting some freaky post that kept appearing on my timeline. Initially I reported the post and hid it, but after getting weary of doing so, I decided to ask him privately via (Direct Message) why he kept doing that and let me just put it this way he got really offended with me and blocked me. The funny thing here is that I didn't quote scriptures to him as some over-spiritual people would have done, neither did I curse him out I simply asked a question him " why do you keep posting freaky stuff?'
his response was nasty and unnecessary in the end he blocked me. I didn't get to say more than that but in the end, I was able to convey a message to him for the mere fact that he got defensive about my question it tells me that he was pricked in his conscience and inherently knew that what he was posting was not good otherwise he could have just ignored me or would have responded differently. but then again, maybe I asked him at a bad time, who knows?. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 
What does the scriptures say about judging I will post it below
Matthew 7:1 Judge Not that ye be not judged, it is not in my place as a child of God to judge a single person on this earth no matter how bad or good the person may appear or be. However, this doesn't mean that when I see something wrong or bad that I should keep mute about it. Wouldn't you like someone to help you when you need help? Wouldn't it be better for someone to show you the right way to do something? Jesus did not judge the promiscuous women who slept with that married man. However he did correct her, he told her to go and sin no more. In others words you are free, I will not use your past mistakes against you but don't go to that man's house or any other man's house and do it again. Go and sin no more. He saved her from being killed, Jesus died for us so that we wouldn't have to die and pay the price for our sins.
 We should learn to take correction, that is the only way we can grow and learn. If nobody tells me that i'm making a mistake, I will probably do it again and again.  In addition to this don't use correction as a leverage to boss others, if you must correct a person, do it with the love of Christ, if this person does not receive you let it go and move on. You can't save everybody because not everybody wants to be saved. Those that will listen  will listen and those that won't, simply won't.
Jesus loves you never forget that 

My Past Post

I have taken some time to read some of the post I made in the previous years and let me just say this I was absolutely amazed at how "over spiritual" I was in some of my posts. The only reason why I will not be deleting it is because I want you all to see my growth and how I have changed for the better. There are certain things now that I no longer say anymore and will probably not say except if God instructs me to say it. If I offended you in any of my previously post I would like to apologize for it.

80/20 Program (Men)

Many people have the tendency of leaving an 80 for a 20. So the question is what is the 80/20 program. It is a strategy of the enemy (the devil) to deter men from loving their partner and makes them leave their wives, some future wife and for some their girlfriend depending on the relationship of the man for a lady who appears to look better than their partner. In the process of the man chasing after this lady (20) he loses both the 20 and the 80 (wife, fiance, or girlfriend). 
Ultimately we can say that this strategy is to make the man lose out completely. Here is what you need to know. The devil knows the fastest way to bring down a man and do you want to guess what he uses? the woman read the book of Genesis to confirm this fact. The downfall or the rise of any man is a woman whether it be his wife, his sister or his mother.

Here is my advice: If you feel that the woman you are with is not good enough you need to ask yourself why? why are you suddenly losing interest in her. Was your intentions of being in a relationship an act of infatuation, was it real? If yes what do you think could be causing you to lose your love for her? Is it because she doesn't dress well, or used to but no longer dresses well, is it due to her attitude, her smell ? her hair? find out exactly why you are losing interest in her and address it. What I have observed in this generation is that when something gets too difficult we tend to give up and leave rather than persevering and trying to make things work. If after addressing these issues with her and these problems are still lingering, do you know what you should do next? Present these issues before God your creator, ask God to help her with these problems that she is having. The devil perhaps is playing mind games with her, unknown to you perhaps he is filling her head with lies and her self-esteem is depleting , she could probably be suffering from depression. Find out for yourself don't begin to bring her down with your words or your actions. Look at what the scripture says 

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it  Ephesians 5:25. Remember the good times, don't be in a hurry to chase after the 20. Women under this category are women who don't mind sleeping with married men, women who have no class and women who lack self-control.These women are temporal and have no intentions on being with you for the true reasons, just the superficial.Try to keep the love alive no matter the cost. Remember Jesus loves you and laid down his life for you, transfer that love to your wife and she will turn around. Don't lose faith. Stay tuned for my next post where I will talk about the 80/20 program aimed at the women.