The 80/20 Program (Women)

If you haven't already please take the time to read my last post titled The 80/20 Program (Men), link below: 
The 80/20 Program (Men)
 The 80/20 program is an agenda manufactured from the enemy (the devil) to have you look down or lose interest in the man you are with for another man who seems to be better than the one you are currently with. Why is your man an "80" and not a"100"? Well, let me put it this way your man is not perfect, yes he was perfectly designed for you, but he's not perfect, he does however comes close to it. Look at what the enemy does, he begins to make you believe that your man is not good enough for you anymore. Perhaps he lost his job, health, or even his mind and now you are left with no choice but to double up to compensate for him. Let's be real, this period can be very stressful and take a negative toll on  you as a woman and this is completely understandable, but look at what you need to know "this too shall pass", if your husband needs your help, then please do the best you can to help him find a job. He may be finding it difficult to tell you because men tend to feel hopeless and useless when they cannot provide for their families, now please note that I am referring to "men of true integrity", because unfortunately we live in a generation filled with deadbeat fathers and men who are "words that are not appropriate for this blog post", so I am making reference to the real men out there who are going through some tough times and are struggling to hold it down for their families and even themselves. If you unfortunately married a lazy man be his help mate, put him to work, help him to find a job, speak words of life to him and pray for him and with him.Please do this with love and understanding, you don't know the power  you have as a woman, you can either lift this man or tear him apart. You may notice that during this period you will start to feel very vulnerable and you definitely be in search of  someone to talk to.
But  guess who the enemy will send your way? A man who fits your exact description of a "real man", this man being the "20" looks great, he smells wonderful, he speaks so eloquently, has a great job that pays him a lot of money, he has a nice house and is a great cook, he takes you out to any restaurant you want, he shows you so much love and affection all the things you wish your husband would do and more, now he tells you that you deserve better and that you should leave your husband for him. In this case, you are moved by his words and enticed by all the things he has done for you and to you. Sooner or later you begin to justify yourself , and take in all the things he has said because you deserve better, one night won't hurt okay maybe even thirty more nights of sinful lust  after all if your husband was doing what he was supposed to do you wouldn't be doing this. You may be right, your husband should man up and do what he is supposed to do and he failed, but do two wrongs make a right? the next thing you know you are having an affair. You are engaging in an act that not only is a sin against your husband and yourself but also against God. This is what the devil does to trap women and to keep further away from God because of guilt. Adultery is exactly what has happened in this situation and by doing this you have given the devil the leverage to control your mind, your body and your soul. Once this man gets what he really wants from you he will leave you and move on to the next woman, leaving you with a broken-heart and in some cases with an incurable disease (STI). Now to those who may argue, well I've experienced this situation and the man didn't leave me he is the best thing that happened to me, allow me to say this and I say this with respect that man still won't compare to the 80 you once had you might think that the 20 that you're with is the best but that's only because you gave up on trying to harness the 80 that you had. I am making reference to the women who actually married the right person but winded up with the wrong results. God doesn't give you challenges that you can't handle. In moments when things get difficult we have the tendency of losing hope and forgetting the good times.Why do this kind of thing to yourself, is it worth the pain? remember there was once a time that you loved your husband so much that you couldn't simply imagine living life without him. Times and seasons may cause feelings and things to change, but don't let that affect the love you once shared with each other. Even if you do lose love for each other, because these things do happen try to make things work, strife to win each other back . Ladies pray for your husband, he needs you more than you may ever know. Men have the tendency to mask their feelings so that they don't appear to be weak but deep down inside they have hidden feelings too. Don't leave your man (80) for a temporary fling (20). If he's making an attempt to be better encourage him, if he feels like he can't do it, make him feel like he can. Don't forget what you told God on the day you said I do ", on that day of judgement God will play back the oath you made and will check to see if you fulfilled it that's why marriage should be taken very seriously.

To The Women who are engaged or are in a relationship? 
In this case scenario you are in a much better position because you can choose to leave if you notice that something isn't adding up or if you are feeling overwhelmed. This period is the most crucial time because this is the decision-making stage. Please make sure that you don't let anything cloud your judgement and both of you should stay true to yourselves, so that there aren't any surprises after the two of you shared your vows. During this time  pray and seek the Lord to confirm what his " perfect will" is for you ,that is of course if you really want to. If God is showing you signs that he is not good for you, please do yourself and your future generation a favor....... LEAVE!!!
Bad marriages do not have a sweet-endings attached to it, leave before it's too late. Don't be easily  deceived and distracted, there are probably going to be other men that want you too irrespective of whether you are engaged, in a relationship or not. During this time the devil loves to send "mirages" and most especially to  materialistic women. Please look beyond his car, his body, his money and material things, actually know for sure if this man is the one for you before making any lifetime commitment. Avoid distractions and distractors focus on your future with your husband- to- be, don't leave him for those mirages that appear to be real, when in reality it's fake, only leave because God is telling you that he is not the one for you otherwise you may end up in a really bad marriage. Remember that the "20 man" has no true intention of staying committed to you, he probably wants you for your body, money, vulnerability etc. You deserve better  and that "80" (your man) is the best gift that God has given to you, now that depends on whether you are married according to God's perfect will. So make the best out of it.Even if you married under his "permissive will" make the most out of it. If found this post helpful share it with others.       
  Remained Blessed.