The Wedding Day and The Marriage

The picture and the picture frame is the best definition of the wedding day and the marriage. The wedding day being the picture frame and the marriage being the picture. A lot of people will be surprised to find out that this false depiction of marriage and sometimes even wedding days thanks to movies, romance books and films is not what it's made to look like. "Marriage is sweet when you are married to the right person".

 That's a fact! a lot of people get caught up in the wind of being a bridezilla and having an over-the-top  fairy-tale wedding that they tend to forget the "Picture" which is the marriage. As a woman, the day you decide to accept this man's proposal everything changes, you are about to step into a new stage that will change your life either for the better or the worst. Don't just think about the over-the-top wedding, because truth be told it's only for one day, except if your culture requires you to do two like mine. Well irrespective of that it's only two days or one and it's over! it will become a blessed memory to you and your spouse and possibly your extended and blended family. Think ahead, think about how many children you plan to have, think about your health, think about your future goals and be sure that you are making the right decisions. Another reality is that everything has it's stages during that bridezilla moment you're probably on cloud nine, your wedding day could not come any faster, this man is thee most perfect man you have ever met and you can' wait to say "I do". As for the groom this is the greatest day of your life, you are about to marry your "dream girl", but after a couple of years reality creeps in responsibilities are piling up and the "i love you so much" stage has faded and what do you have left? If you're only interested in the wedding and not the marriage then you have missed the whole point. The wedding is just the picture frame, your marriage is the picture.  Please remember this, make sure that you are marrying the right person that God has set aside for you. Read your bible closely and examine the life of King Solomon, King Ahab and Samson. These were all anointed men hand picked by God, but the partners they all choose to marry or (concubines)  destroyed and tarnished their legacy. Don't get caught up in her curves and her beauty like Samson did. His lust for strange women is what killed him.  The body changes, especially for women after pregnancy, she may not be the "full packaged lady" she once used to be and  ladies overtime he may not be the "handsome six packed man" that he once use to be once upon a time. Let your reasons for marriage be deeper than looks and money. These things can easily fade away.  Be with this man because God hand picked him to be a blessing in your life and no matter what may happens come rain or shine stand by him, allow God to use him to beautify your life, you don't have to wear the trousers in the house to be respected. Be with this woman because God has selected her to be your helpmate she is there to help you, she is the one that will bring life to your future children so cherish her, even when her body changes and she may not look like she once did before you married her. Stand by each other, even when things no longer look like the "picture frame" the wedding day because it's much bigger than your wedding day, it's your marriage. Remain Blessed.