Prayer is Power

Don't underestimate the power of prayer no matter how big or small it is. Why is prayer so important? Prayer is the direct communication to God. It's like having a conversation with a close friend. Some may ask well why do I need to pray if God already knows what i'm going to say? There is power in your spoken word, meaning to say that when you open your mouth to decree a thing or ask God for anything you have given your authority for it to come to life. That is why we have to watch what we say and even what we think. As you are praying don't also forget to add your works into it.  Meaning to say that after you pray, make something happen get busy don't just stay stagnant and wait for God to do all the work. If you are struggling to pray or maybe you don't know how to just start by reading the Lord's prayer and recite it. And as you progress try to tell God about what bothers you or what you would like to see happen in your life or even better what can you start doing for him. A person once said that "it's only those people who pray for their marriages that keep divorce away". I never actually understood why in the midst of my prayers I would hear a voice telling me to pray  about  my marriage, I didn't understand why and even after I thought I was done I would still hear you need to pray more about it. So when I came across this video and heard what the person said about prayer and keeping away divorce, it was like a bell starting ringing in my ear and that was what motivated me to type this post. I say this to encourage you all don't underestimate the power of prayer. Jesus loves you never forget that. Keep praying, Keeping working, don't stop believing Jesus will come through for you and I can guarantee it. 

Go out and Explore

Don't wait for people to give you their own interpretation of anything. Make your own discoveries. Their are many of you reading this that have probably never stepped foot into any part of the world apart from the one you live in. Some of you have even allowed the media to feed you with false interpretations of what some parts of the world look like. Do yourself a favor go out and make your own discoveries. Don't let the media limit your perception of this World. Everyday there is something new to learn and discover so why wait or why depend on the media for everything.
This really isn't one of those long essays I usually write. I'm keeping it short and sweet Go out and explore.

When Things Get Bad

When you have tried and tried so many times and you keep falling and failing please remember that God has not forgotten about you. He said that he will never leave you nor will he forsake you. God is removing the things that you don't need in your life and is preparing you for something much greater than you will ever know. I am speaking from personal experience because truth be told this year (2018) by far has been the most challenging year ever. I went through a lot of struggles financially, spiritually, in my home just to sum it all up. I am not telling you that I didn't have times where I wanted to give up because I did. Many times that I cried myself to sleep but through it all I didn't give up and I didn't do it alone it's been God all through. He encouraged me through his word. Reading the bible and mediating on it helped me get through the challenges I faced this year. Hearing his voice audibly strengthened me. I want to urge you to develop a relationship with God if you haven't already. Because whether you are a believer or not you will still pass through challenges and it is better to pass through your storms with somebody holding your hand then for you to go through it alone. Let's get real for a  minute, you weren't put on this earth alone,and so therefore God does not  expect you to be alone that's why he has told us that he will always be there.
So when things get bad please understand that it's not because God never existed as some say. It's not because God hates you because if that were to be the case you and I would not be living. It is simply because he is preparing you and I for something greater. And for those of you who might say well I don't understand why I have to go through storms since God already knows me and what I can do. Can I tell you something? My dear reader God knows but you don't! in other words God knows your strengths but you are yet to know yours, that is why he has allowed things to get bad. He wants you to know your strengths even in weakening situations, in addition to that he wants to move you to a higher level. Let's just put it this way each class you go through the higher you go the harder it gets. That's precisely what God is doing you are reaching a higher level in your walk with him so just expect a lot of things to happen most of which will not be favorable but it won't last long. Weeping may endure for a night but JOY comes in the morning.  

Church Denomination Politics

I personally believe that we as the true body of Christ are the church. If you look at your body you will notice that you have different parts in it.All the parts of our body whether big or small    play a significant role in it's functionality. In today's world we have many churches and each one has something different to offer. So back to the title "Church Denomination Politics" I have seen situations where homes were torn apart due to denominational differences.  My thing is before you get married to a person please en-devour to air everything out, don't lie or pretend just be real. You both should have a discussion on what type of church will work best for the both of you, because believe it or not as mentioned earlier each church has something different to offer, this of course means that the doctrines, teachings etc varies in all denominations. If you both have discussed what church will work best for the both of you this whole church denominational quagmire won't exist. Truth be told I believe that you can learn so many things in so many different places so why limit yourself to just one church. I believe that couples should switch it up every once in a while. Don't just lock yourself in one place actually explore other places at least until you both find one that caters to  your spirituality in it's entirety.  To be honest as long as the message of the church is based  on Christ, his love , salvation, forgiveness, repentance etc, then it really shouldn't matter where you both fellowship just as long as there is an agreement and that the foundation of the church is the word of God. Say for instance that my "husband" has given me the liberty to fellowship anywhere I want and he's fine with it there will not be any conflict at all on this issue because we both have agreed, but let's say for instance, that my husband wants me to fellowship at a church but I don't like it, should I decide to fellowship elsewhere there will definitely be a conflict. What is my point? My point is simply this let there be an understanding between the both of you. If you don't like where you both are fellow-shipping actually have a sit down and spill it out. Don't pretend and act like you like it when in reality you hate it. If you are blessed to have an understanding spouse maybe he or she can suggest alternating what churches you both will attend for the sake of peace. If you have a hard-headed spouse give him or her some time to come around, otherwise your marriage will end in shambles. I have been to quite a few churches and truth be told I don't have a "base church". Should a believer have a "base church"? This is my philosophy on the whole denominational, base church issue. We are different and alike in many ways. I believe that why we have so many different churches today it's because we have different needs and we look for the places that attend to our needs. I strongly believe that as long as a church teaches the message of salvation and as long as their messages are not misinterpreted for monetary purposes then it really shouldn't matter where one fellowships. Again this is my philosophy, so you can disregard this if you feel that this does not appeal to you. Don't let a denomination be the reason why your house is falling apart or why you have cut yourself off from true friends and family etc. The church at the end of the day is you and I. The doctrines and teachings are the things that make churches different, but if you take your time to look at them all they are one and the same.

Develop Your Own Personal Relationship With God

I cannot stress this enough why we keep seeing so many people being deceived into occult churches today it's because people have become "lukewarm" in the sense that they do not use discernment before entering any church and they do not read the bible. The bible makes it very clear that in the last days many will be deceived. Please for the sake of your own spirituality do not let these false prophets use evil doctrines to deceive you. Have a firm relationship with God and ask the Holy Spirit to discern the scriptures for you, ask the Holy Spirit to order your footsteps in his way. Even the devil used the bible to tempt Jesus. So yes it is possible for a Man or even Woman of God to preach Christ but behind it all such false prophets  twist the scriptures to conform to their own agenda. The devil has no new tricks just new victims. Do not victimize yourself. Stop running from pillar to post, some of you are in pursuit of miracles. Why? is my question to you. That you have breathe running through your nostrils is that not a miracle. Trust me if you go to the hospital and see what people are going through you will thank God everyday for your life. Stop running after miracles if you want God to add miracles, signs and wonders to your life do the NEEDFUL, seek for his Kingdom, seek for a relationship with him, stop engaging in activities that draws him away from you. Once you do this anything you ask he will give them to you as long as you don't pray amidst. Some of you won't do anything without consulting your pastor, why have you allowed your pastor to take the place of God. Your Pastor, Bishop, Father-in-The-Lord or whoever is a human like you and I. God is using them as his mouthpiece but you can also talk to him by yourself and he will answer you. Some of you know deep down within your heart that your leader is in error and rather than you leave or caution such a person with respect you shallow it and continue in ignorance. This generation has no excuse because God has provided everything possible for us to make wise decisions, so if you find yourself in this quagmire ask God to deliver you out of it don't continue to stay in ignorance.
I cannot over-emphasize this enough develop your own personal relationship with God so that you won't be deceived.

Don't Give Up Your Time Will Come

Your time is coming even if it tarries it will surely happen. That job you've been trying to secure you will get it, it's only a matter of time. Perhaps you've been disappointed so many times, one disappointing situation after another. Do not give up it's not the end of the world. Everyone must pass through the storm. Even David, Moses and many others in the bible went through storms, but they did not give up. They trusted in God and he gave them all the Victory. The battle is NOT yours it is the Lord's. Know when to fight and know when to let God fight. If you try to do this on your own you may not get very far. Tell yourself everyday that you will succeed and you will win this battle called "LIFE". Don't let depression suppress you. Read a bible passage everyday to strengthen yourself. Keep working hard while you put God first in what you do and you will win the battle. 
Don't Give up your time will come.

Let it go

   Whatever you feel is holding you back or is bringing back bad memories try as much as you can to let it go. We don't have the power to change the past so why should we keep living in it. Let those past mistakes be the stepping stones to your future. If you need to talk to a therapist or anyone at all please do, get the necessary help that you need. If you don't treat a wound , it won't heal probably and that gives way to all sorts of bacteria which can lead to infections and possibly even death. That's exactly what can happen to a person who refuses to let go of the past. 
  Yes it's easier said than done, I totally agree with you but it's good to start somewhere. You are so much better than what you used to be years ago. That was a different "you", if need be cut yourself away from friends and people who only view you from your past life. Do yourself this big favor and cut these toxins off such people are bad for your spiritual growth. Surround yourself with good people. Don't ever believe that you don't deserve better because you do. You deserve so much better because deep down inside you are a person who is trying to evolve and change for the best. Try not to compare yourself to others because your journey will never be a duplicate to somebody else's. Stay in your own lane and work on being the best version of yourself. The only person I compete with is myself. I want that whatever it is that I have done in the previous years, I have outdone it in my current year. 
I'm not saying that I am not currently passing through some storms because I am, and I believe that everyone is too. It's just that I've chosen to look at it from an optimistic perspective because life is too short. If I spend the remaining years of my life regretting the mistakes I have made and sobbing over the things I didn't get to accomplish I am wasting too much of my precious time. If crying helps you to relieve those feelings then by all means cry but after you shed those tears dust yourself off and try again. The journey isn't over, that's why you're still alive. Keep fighting, keep learning from your mistakes, keep growing and most importantly let go of the chains that are holding you back, be free and let it go.

When a person deceitfully leads you on

I know that this topic is very sensitive so I hope this helps you. Have you been in a situation where you felt betrayed by someone ? like someone got your hopes up but later on turned around and pulled the plug on you? I am certain that you lashed out or you probably fought back and maybe you acted in a way that you later regretted. Truth be told it's natural to feel hurt when you are offended. Especially when a person got your hopes up high for nothing, but let me say this as a friendly reminder to you. Let the Lord avenge for you. What do I mean by this give yourself some time to heal and let those emotions go. The enemy did that to frustrate you and to make you feel like a failure. There is a reason why the bible says that we should pray for our enemies. There is a demon that is responsible for making people do things like that. Remember that the devil is a deceiver. Deception is his trait and if a person does this just know that there is a spirit that is manifesting in that individual. God's thoughts for us are good and not evil. Pray that God opens the eyes of these people who are being used by the enemy and pray that God changes their heart and their mind. Don't carry any evil grudge against them. Remember even while Jesus was painfully dying on the cross, he still asked his father to forgive us because we were in ignorance. These deceivers are not happy within themselves and that is why they do the things that they do. If they had love they wouldn't have done that. Please pray for those that hurt you and forgive them too so that God can bless you and open his window of blessings for you. If you don't forgive you won't be forgiven either. 

Say that a man promised to marry you and he really put your hopes high into the sky and perhaps maybe upon getting to the wedding day he cancels on you. Your family and friends are doing their best to get this man to carry through with the wedding but he refuses. What should you do in this situation.As difficult as it is forgive him and move on. If this man was God's perfect will for you  he wouldn't have done that to you. No man in his right senses will cancel his wedding upon reaching the wedding day. God is saving you from making a terrible mistake. Yes, it is painful that  that this man lead you on and embarrassed you like that, not to mention the amount of money that you invested into your wedding but please give yourself some time to heal, forgive him and move on. God has a better man for you and vice versa. Overtime you will see that such a person will pay for the harm they did to you because whatever a man sows that is what he will reap but nevertheless let God avenge for you. 
And to the people who take pleasure in deceiving others, I want to inform you that it never ends well. This world is very small and you might need that person who you hurt one day. Be good to others so that good can come back to you. Treat others with love and kindness because you, just like me are not perfect and you too can make mistakes. If you have no intentions of helping a person don't lie about it and lead them on just be upfront, because in that same manner that you deceived that person the same will be done to you sooner or later.   

I know it all attitude

    As long as we are on this earth nobody knows it all. It doesn't matter how many degrees you have or even what you have accomplished all those things are good and fine, but truth be told you can't  know everything. We learn new things everyday as we grow and as we live. When a person has an " I-know-it-all attitude they feel that there is nothing they can learn from anybody and they feel  attacked when the things they say are questioned or disproved. Such people don't like to be corrected and don't like to make amends. Let me use an incident that happened this evening as an example. 
    I  joined a group on Facebook, on this group we share our opinions, thoughts and insights on the things of God and life too. One of the moderators of this group made a comment that I didn't agree with. He said that a person is not eligible to marry God's will if their name is not written in the book of life. I then asked where this was written in the bible and he was not able to tell me where he got that from. Another person attempted to explain what he said and even brought out some bible passages,  but none of them had anything to do with the question I asked. The person made a few attempts but was not able to provide the scriptures I requested for. The moderator later stated that he doesn't like it when people actually know the truth but would rather dance around it. How have I danced around the truth when I am seeking for the prove? This doesn't surprise me, when a person is used to praises and a person comes to question what they mean this is normally the kind of response they give. I am sorry but I am a factual person and to be frank I could really care less about how long a person's journey has been with God. If you are in error then you are in error! you can't right a wrong. Error can happen to anyone regardless of  your age.
 When someone politely explains how they don't see eye to eye with your point of view you reason with them until they do or you leave them be. And if you are at fault why not take the necessary steps to correct your mistake you are not perfect and neither am I. This is a big issue that we have today in Christianity as a whole. Nobody likes to take correction but we sure love to dish it.
    I prefer facts to sentiments any day. Many ministers have made this error of telling people what they feel verses what the word of God actually says. The Word of God is the bedrock of our salvation not our sentiments. I have nothing against a person using their own personal feelings towards a situation because after all we are humans, but please don't use your sentiments to misconstrue the bible and what it stands for.  Nowadays when God sends a person to correct a minister, pastor etc instead of them to reflect on what was said and make the necessary changes they will  begin to pick offense and/or make up something to justify their error. Where is the fear of God? Where is the humility that they preach of?
   There is nothing in the bible that says you cannot marry God's perfect will if your name is not written in the book of life, this is what the moderator believes but that's not what God said. If God said so show me where and if you cannot show me then it means that it's not there. Let's not get into the habit of putting words in God's mouth. When God shines the light he shines it on both the wicked and the righteous he is not partial. To say that God only gives his perfect will in marriage to those whose names are in the book of life, then what about those who are yet to know about him? will he elude them as well.  If that's the way a person sees God then it saddens me and  perhaps they haven't read the bible well enough to understand who God is and how he works. I have heard about how a couple (unbelievers)  got married and how they both  repented and are now devout believers working in the vineyard of Christ. Now will you say that these people are not under God's will? so how then can this moderator say that they are not eligible for marriage because their names are not in the book of life. These people are now new creatures in Christ old things are past away God can perfect them because nothing is impossible with God.
   Even after I gave this reference he went on to say that there is no way that their marriage can be the same as a person who sought God before marriage. They both sought God whether a man did it before he was married or after he sought God and found him.
Romans 9:16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth but of God that sheweth mercy. I honestly thank God that he didn't make us the final judge because if that had been the case nobody would be saved. This is what the bible says about marriage. Hebrews 13:4A KJV Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. Marriage is honorable to God because it fulfills his desire for us to replenish the earth and many other reasons too. Lest I digress, my topic today is on the I-know-it-all attitude, I was rather disappointed in how the moderator was nonchalant about what he said even when he had no proof to back it up. He is not perfect so I am not holding this against him. I believe God allow this to happen so that I can shed light on this issue and share it with others. As Christians let's refrain from behaviors like this. Let the bible be your guide, yes it's okay to add your two cents as long as it's in conjunction with the word of God. If you add anything else that is contrary to it then it's false, that is a false gospel, stick with the word of God let the bible be your reference point. SHALOM

You Can't Trap a Woman For So Long

As most of us know in this day and age feminism, the fight for equal rights etc is on the rise. Many homes are being broken as a result of many things. In spite of all these things there is something that I have acquired over a period of time. A WOMAN CANNOT BE TRAPPED FOR SO LONG. Here is the link to one of my previous posts about the impossibilities of trapping a man. 
                     you-cant-trap-man.html
 There are some women that are in abusive relationships and are afraid for their lives. It is only a matter of time before she will gather the strength to leave. Unfortunately a lot of men were not raised with good father figures so it's no surprise to me why some men are monstrous and abusive. Let me share this with you. Ephesians 5:25 KJV Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church. How can you as a man actually say you love your wife or your woman and you abuse her. You shouldn't hurt the ones you claim to love. Let's take for instance if she did something that annoyed you there are ways to handle the situation. Imagine if God beat you up for every little mistake you made will you still be alive? Let's be real with ourselves you might feel that you are the man and yes you are there is no question about it,but if she is only staying with you because of fear I want to inform you  that that isn't love and that is not God's definition of love. Love is not oppressive, neither is love defined as living in bondage and in fear. Some men take advantage of the fact that we women are feeble hearted. Meaning that we feel deeper with our emotions, there is a breaking point. There is a point where we have taken up so much hurt and have reached a point where we will no longer tolerate it and that's where the strength to leave comes in. 
 Let's turn this table for a minute. If you  are an  abusive woman because believe it or not women can be abusive too, you need to respect your husband/ your man. If he isn't treating you right why are you still with him? Why do you continue to put yourself into such misery.  Honestly speaking if you both feel that the best way to communicate is through violence, then it clearly shows that you both either came from broken homes or didn't have people to show you what true love is. If you strongly believe that you both have a  love worth fighting for, why not look for ways to resolve your issues? Go for counselling, talk to a trusted relative, mutual friend, pastor etc. Listen if you need to take a break there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes a healthy time away from each other can help you to articulate your thoughts and actions better. Take a healthy break for the sake of your sanity. If you have an abusive man, please do what King David did when Saul was after his life .. flee for safety. 
I don't care even if he comes back crying and telling you that he is sorry, that man has a violent spirit in him and i'm sorry to say this he will abuse you again. Don't go back until he gets the help he needs.  He shouldn't hit you neither should you hit him. You both should submit to yourselves and resolve your issues without letting things get violent. The book of Ephesians 5: 22 says Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Don't let these reality shows cloud your reality. Violence is never the solution in a relationship. Some men believe that getting a woman pregnant is another form of trapping her. Sure enough it means that you will always be in her life but that's only by default, for the child's sake. If a woman decides that she has had enough of the things that you have put her through she will leave and never look back, that is of course if she has really had enough. Some men use money as a leverage to trap a women, please ladies we need to do better. There are good quality jobs out there! let's get busy and fend for ourselves. Too many women these days are looking for men who will give them money at there disposal without putting in any work. Do this for yourself and your children : GET A JOB!! don't depend on anyone for anything except God. Don't let anyone demean you or devalue your true worth. So to sum this all this all up. You can't trap a woman, if she is fed up with you and done with the things you have put her through she will leave.

Only My Heart

How would you feel if you went to a doctor's office and while you're waiting you see a mechanic dressed in a doctor's coat calling in patients to be seen? How would that make you feel? Remember this is a certified mechanic so you know good and well that this is not a doctor and under the law a licensed person in the medical profession ( doctor,nurse etc) are the only ones who are permitted to  perform the clinical routines on you. If you ask me I wouldn't be happy at all because this mechanic is not a doctor is not permitted by law to see or even call in patients. Now image how God feels when we misrepresent who he is on earth. Imagine when someone who is in error attempts to justify it by their words.  We are the bible that the world sees and if they cannot see Christ in us it defeats the purpose of being a Christian. In today's world nobody really likes owning up to their faults or mistakes, we like to profess that God looks at my heart. If God was to show you what he sees in your heart, what does he see? I can dress in whatever way that I want God looks at my heart, I can steal and there is nothing wrong with it because God looks at my heart. Stop making excuses to justify sin, God made it very clear that a person who hides their sin cannot prosper. Proverbs 28:13 KJV He that covers his sins shall not prosper: but whosoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy.
 That is why we really need to strive to make it to Heaven. Look at what the bible  says about getting into the Kingdom of God. Luke 13:24 KJV Strife to enter in at the strait gate for many, I say unto you will seek to enter in and shall not be able. We all need to examine ourselves time after time to be sure that we are doing what pleases the Lord before we go. God looks at your heart that's very true but what shows up on the outside is a reflection of what's going on inside.

Pulling Others Down

   You can't win when you play this kind of game. I am yet to see a person land successfully after pulling people down. For a moment it seems as if this individual is winning, but overtime everything starts to crumble. How you obtained it could also be the way you lose it.

AN EXAMPLE OF PULLING A PERSON DOWN: You see a friend of yours getting into a clothing business. So far your friend is doing a tremendous job, now envy starts to creep into your veins and everything your friend does is annoying to you. In the process of all this you start to tell people to stop buying anything from her store, to add more salt to the injury you begin to fabricate rumors about your friend so that you can destroy her image. Shortly after this something within you starts to tell you that the time has come for you to start your own clothing business. These are examples of pulling a person down and operating with the Jezebel spirit.I'm sorry if this offends you but it's the truth and if you find yourself doing this please ask God to remove this spirit from you. Seek help in every good way possible, if you need to speak to a therapist please do, if you need to speak to a trust-able companion please do, If you need to pray and fast about it then please do. This behavior never ends in a good way, you can never win by pulling others down.
 Proverbs 14:30 KJV
A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones. The spirit of envy rottens the bones.


 THERE IS ROOM FOR EVERYBODY! Please remember that this world is big enough to contain everyone, don't become envious of your friends' success or anybody's for that matter, your own time is coming. Work hard, put God first in what you do and he will supply every other thing that you'll need.
          You don't know what that person went through to get to their peak of greatness
You were not there to see the blood, sweat and tears, so why envy him or her? With God there is a time for everything, your hour hasn't come yet, so just be patient and get busy as well. Covetousness is EVIL, it makes you devalue everything you have and love what others have. I am speaking in general terms whether you are a Christian, Atheist, Muslim etc or not. Learn to love what you have and cherish it, and learn to work hard for the things you don't have so that you too can have it. You can achieve greatness without having to pull anyone down. We work better together than when we work alone. If only humanity can understand this concept this world will be a much better place to live in.
THE REPERCUSSION OF PULLING A PERSON DOWN: The dangers of doing this can be explained better with the scriptures, look at what happened to Jezebel after all her evil deeds spilled over. In shorter words, it back fires and comes back in 7-folds. Save yourself from the wrath that comes with pulling others down. Let's act with love and kindness it pays to be good.

Know when to speak and when not to speak

Even till this day I struggle with this because often times there are moments when I want to give a person a piece of my mind. But there is something that Jesus taught me and I hope you can take this with you. It's not everything that you must respond to and that's a fact. Some people are naturally negative so no matter what you do it's never good enough for them. There are some people that whatever you give them they love it no matter how big or how small it is. This life is filled with many things both good and bad. It's up to an individual to choose how they want to live their life. Unfortunately, in this generation we have so many pastors,minsters etc  that are in error and have become too pompous to be corrected. Many of them have misrepresented what the church is about and what it stands for. This makes it difficult to evangelize. A Muslim once said to me " you Christians have too many fake pastors". I agreed with him because he was right but deep down within me I was sad because we being the "church" have not represented Jesus in a good way at all.
I told him however that I don't depend on these pastors for miracles or signs of any sort, if you do what God tells you to do you will be blessed whether a man of God says it or not. That my friend is a fact. Too many people have become so dependent on the man of God instead of God himself.

There is a church that I used to attend, that is being attack by a lady who uses her forum to expose churches. There are some things that she says in general that I agree with and some that I do not agree with. As a response to what she said , I saw a few Facebook posts from the members of the church in regards to what their church stands for. All I can say is this " know when to speak and when not to speak". If you know deep down within your spirit that you are doing the right thing, you don't need to respond to any negative backlash leave them be. God who sees what is happening will handle the situation for you and trust me with God, he has many ways to deal with an individual.That is why he is the Almighty God.  There are people that the devil is using to distract the body of Christ don't be deceived or carried away when you see this going on. Stand firm on the word of God and he will surely bring you out of that situation. You don't have to drag it out with them even when they might say things that are offensive just say what you need to say and leave it there, and depending on the situation you don't need to say a word. 

False/Fake People ( False Prophets)

  In this day and age we need to be spiritually and physically alert. We need a "discerning spirit" to be able to identify the real from the fake. The bible makes it very clear that in the last days these train of events will happen. 1. The Love of many will wax cold- are we not seeing these things with our eyes? racism, police brutality, wars and rumors of wars (World War III) etc. This should not be shocking to you if you read your bible and mediate on what the Word of God says.
 2. Perilous Times will come we are seeing these come in forms of earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, Hurricanes, outbreaks of airborne and contagious diseases, food prices increasing, poverty etc. The list goes on if you read the Book of  II Timothy 3:1-7. My topic for today is on two types of people the false prophets that we see here presently and fake or false people. What does it mean to be fake? Fake simply means not genuine, counterfeit. There are many people who pretend and love to put up a false image of what they are  NOT. Remember I mentioned earlier that because of the things that are happening in this generation we need discernment and your gut feeling may not be sufficient enough because even as human beings we can be deceived. Fake people are people who pretend to like you or get close to you to destroy you or take something you have. The devil is not going to appear to you like a beast, because if he shows his true image many of us will run away from him and avoid him. So because the devil wants to trap as many people as possible,he has disguised himself as an angel of light. Let's read what the bible says : 2 Corinthians 11:14-15 KJV

And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.

15 Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works.  

This is where the second part comes in. He has people that are working under him and some of them are seen on a regular basis. Most of them mount up on the pulpit to give sermons every Sunday and even other days of the week. Some of their congregants put on the image of righteousness but the things they do behind closed doors are worse than those who are  proclaimed SINNERS. I will not use this platform to expose or exploit anyone's name or ministry because at the end of the day God will be the final judge and they will answer to God on that day of Judgement. The ONLY exception to this is if God and him ONLY instructs me to expose them or something they did for the sole purpose of saving his children from being victimize by  lies and deception, and should I ever say anything about them it is not to bring them down or  judge them it is to correct with love and inform others in like manner  otherwise you will not see me mention names of any pastor, minster etc who is actually working with the devil, because in due time God will expose them. I want to advise all of you to use discernment when you see these things happening and when you see such people. Like I  have told you with celebrities and I will tell you also for these false prophets and people, pray that Jesus Christ through his redemption power will bring these people out of darkness and back into his glorious light. If you can reach out to them and that's if you can .. TRY and tell them this message with love. I'm all for peace and love in Christ. Share this with others Thanks.

The Wedding Day and The Marriage

The picture and the picture frame is the best definition of the wedding day and the marriage. The wedding day being the picture frame and the marriage being the picture. A lot of people will be surprised to find out that this false depiction of marriage and sometimes even wedding days thanks to movies, romance books and films is not what it's made to look like. "Marriage is sweet when you are married to the right person".

 That's a fact! a lot of people get caught up in the wind of being a bridezilla and having an over-the-top  fairy-tale wedding that they tend to forget the "Picture" which is the marriage. As a woman, the day you decide to accept this man's proposal everything changes, you are about to step into a new stage that will change your life either for the better or the worst. Don't just think about the over-the-top wedding, because truth be told it's only for one day, except if your culture requires you to do two like mine. Well irrespective of that it's only two days or one and it's over! it will become a blessed memory to you and your spouse and possibly your extended and blended family. Think ahead, think about how many children you plan to have, think about your health, think about your future goals and be sure that you are making the right decisions. Another reality is that everything has it's stages during that bridezilla moment you're probably on cloud nine, your wedding day could not come any faster, this man is thee most perfect man you have ever met and you can' wait to say "I do". As for the groom this is the greatest day of your life, you are about to marry your "dream girl", but after a couple of years reality creeps in responsibilities are piling up and the "i love you so much" stage has faded and what do you have left? If you're only interested in the wedding and not the marriage then you have missed the whole point. The wedding is just the picture frame, your marriage is the picture.  Please remember this, make sure that you are marrying the right person that God has set aside for you. Read your bible closely and examine the life of King Solomon, King Ahab and Samson. These were all anointed men hand picked by God, but the partners they all choose to marry or (concubines)  destroyed and tarnished their legacy. Don't get caught up in her curves and her beauty like Samson did. His lust for strange women is what killed him.  The body changes, especially for women after pregnancy, she may not be the "full packaged lady" she once used to be and  ladies overtime he may not be the "handsome six packed man" that he once use to be once upon a time. Let your reasons for marriage be deeper than looks and money. These things can easily fade away.  Be with this man because God hand picked him to be a blessing in your life and no matter what may happens come rain or shine stand by him, allow God to use him to beautify your life, you don't have to wear the trousers in the house to be respected. Be with this woman because God has selected her to be your helpmate she is there to help you, she is the one that will bring life to your future children so cherish her, even when her body changes and she may not look like she once did before you married her. Stand by each other, even when things no longer look like the "picture frame" the wedding day because it's much bigger than your wedding day, it's your marriage. Remain Blessed.

You can't trap a man

   In this post today I will be talking about the impossibilities of trapping a man. In my next post I will be talking about the impossibilities of trapping a woman. Why is it impossible to trap a man? A man will only stay with a woman if he truly wants to. First of all there has to be something about this woman that makes it hard for him to walk out irrespective of the situation. A lot of women have this notion : "Once I have sex with him, there is no possible way that he will leave me". I want to inform you that that's a lie. Should you decide to deny your husband of sex, depending on the kind of man he is, he will find another woman who will be more than willing to give it to him and that's just a fact.  Even if your man is thee most faithful husband in this world , even if he is a Godly man and a heavily anointed man at that, he will at some point have sex with another woman should you deny him of it, except if God chooses to intervene and he decides to listen to God. At the end of the day he is flesh and blood.

    Another common deception that a lot of women believe : "Once I have his babies there is no way that he will leave me". Ladies, we no longer live in a generation where men are ashamed of having children out of wedlock. We no longer live in a generation that covers up for unwanted pregnancies through marriage. If you get knocked up by this man he can still leave you for another woman or even women depending on the kind of man you have. So allow me to put it this way, you can do everything in your ability to keep a man, but if he cannot find any virtue in you and if you are not giving him a reason to continue on in the marriage/relationship he will leave regardless of whether he has kids with you or not. This includes Breadwinners who are women (financially speaking). Think with your brain don't always think with your heart. The heart tends to make us overlook situations that we should actually be focused on due to our emotions and feelings.
    What was your reason for being with him in the first place? Is it because he makes money? If it's because of money try your best to find a job and  make your own money don't use any man as a leverage. If you depend solely on a man for his income, he can decide to use that to control you. Try your best to fend for yourself, you can let your husband spoil you I am not against that, but don't solely depend on him for everything. Did you decide to be with him  because of the way he looks? Beauty fades and good looks fade too, nothing lasts forever. Don't let his attractiveness on the outside blind you from his ugliness on the inside.
   If this man is attractive but he genuinely doesn't love you, it doesn't matter what you do to trap him, this man will not stay. Is it because of the way he pleases you sexually? What people fail to understand is that sex is a bond between your soul and your body, you shouldn't give that up to anybody except if it's your husband or wife. That's the way God designed it. I am not judging you if you made mistakes in the past and even if you are currently struggling with it now, if you decide to start on a fresh new leaf with God he will forgive you!! Just keep trying until you break free from this sexual addiction, the Lord is your strength. I had a good friend of mine who removed sex from her relationship and things shortly ended between them. He moved on with another lady and so did she with another man. Why is pre-martial sex dangerous, it can cloud your thinking. There are many people today that only got married to their partners because they were so "good in bed" forgetting that marriage isn't only about sex. The dangerous of pre-martial sex is a conversation for another time. In Summary you really can't trap a man, a man will only stay if he wants to and if there is something about you that he can't find in another woman.

My FeedBack

So I came across a post that if you ask me in my honest opinion was baseless and not sensible. So in this post the author said "Beloved Lady, Don't be fooled. Don't block
your future husband plzzzzz.
Your boyfriend is not your husband!" Listen ladies men like this are egocentric and believe that they are the best option that you will ever come across, avoid such men. Any man that does not respect your current relationship, will do the same thing with a another lady if you decide to be in a relationship with him. Let's read further into what the author said "A guy approached you for a relationship,and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend',boyfriend ke? Its very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a guy asks you out." First of all there is nothing wrong with telling a man that you are already in a committed relationship, so that he knows from the onset that there can be nothing past a friendship. Would this author like it if  another man wants to be "friends" with his girlfriend? or take his future wife- to- be away from him? I am not referring to just a friendship , but the kind that can lead to a relationship. Let's be real we know how possessive men can be so why would he think that it's wrong to set the record straight from the onset? 

Then he goes on to say "A guy met a Lady of 27 years he really

admired, he asked her out and she boldly told him, 'no! Using the word "I have a boyfriend!' "
Jesus! A boyfriend at 27 years? What's wrong with that? everybody's timing is not the same, that's what people fail to understand I have a friend who got married to her longtime boyfriend and they have been dating since 7th grade. They didn't get married until she was 28 or perhaps 27 years old. Age truly doesn't matter some people are forty and act worse than a three year old, it's about maturity, financial ability, emotional stability as well as the individual's spirituality. The post goes on a little bit more but I won't say much more about it. What I will say is this your timing is not the same with everybody's, there is a reason why when you are about to run in a race, you are advise not to look at your competitors. Stay in your own lane and finish your race well.

The 80/20 Program (Women)

If you haven't already please take the time to read my last post titled The 80/20 Program (Men), link below: 
The 80/20 Program (Men)
 The 80/20 program is an agenda manufactured from the enemy (the devil) to have you look down or lose interest in the man you are with for another man who seems to be better than the one you are currently with. Why is your man an "80" and not a"100"? Well, let me put it this way your man is not perfect, yes he was perfectly designed for you, but he's not perfect, he does however comes close to it. Look at what the enemy does, he begins to make you believe that your man is not good enough for you anymore. Perhaps he lost his job, health, or even his mind and now you are left with no choice but to double up to compensate for him. Let's be real, this period can be very stressful and take a negative toll on  you as a woman and this is completely understandable, but look at what you need to know "this too shall pass", if your husband needs your help, then please do the best you can to help him find a job. He may be finding it difficult to tell you because men tend to feel hopeless and useless when they cannot provide for their families, now please note that I am referring to "men of true integrity", because unfortunately we live in a generation filled with deadbeat fathers and men who are "words that are not appropriate for this blog post", so I am making reference to the real men out there who are going through some tough times and are struggling to hold it down for their families and even themselves. If you unfortunately married a lazy man be his help mate, put him to work, help him to find a job, speak words of life to him and pray for him and with him.Please do this with love and understanding, you don't know the power  you have as a woman, you can either lift this man or tear him apart. You may notice that during this period you will start to feel very vulnerable and you definitely be in search of  someone to talk to.
But  guess who the enemy will send your way? A man who fits your exact description of a "real man", this man being the "20" looks great, he smells wonderful, he speaks so eloquently, has a great job that pays him a lot of money, he has a nice house and is a great cook, he takes you out to any restaurant you want, he shows you so much love and affection all the things you wish your husband would do and more, now he tells you that you deserve better and that you should leave your husband for him. In this case, you are moved by his words and enticed by all the things he has done for you and to you. Sooner or later you begin to justify yourself , and take in all the things he has said because you deserve better, one night won't hurt okay maybe even thirty more nights of sinful lust  after all if your husband was doing what he was supposed to do you wouldn't be doing this. You may be right, your husband should man up and do what he is supposed to do and he failed, but do two wrongs make a right? the next thing you know you are having an affair. You are engaging in an act that not only is a sin against your husband and yourself but also against God. This is what the devil does to trap women and to keep further away from God because of guilt. Adultery is exactly what has happened in this situation and by doing this you have given the devil the leverage to control your mind, your body and your soul. Once this man gets what he really wants from you he will leave you and move on to the next woman, leaving you with a broken-heart and in some cases with an incurable disease (STI). Now to those who may argue, well I've experienced this situation and the man didn't leave me he is the best thing that happened to me, allow me to say this and I say this with respect that man still won't compare to the 80 you once had you might think that the 20 that you're with is the best but that's only because you gave up on trying to harness the 80 that you had. I am making reference to the women who actually married the right person but winded up with the wrong results. God doesn't give you challenges that you can't handle. In moments when things get difficult we have the tendency of losing hope and forgetting the good times.Why do this kind of thing to yourself, is it worth the pain? remember there was once a time that you loved your husband so much that you couldn't simply imagine living life without him. Times and seasons may cause feelings and things to change, but don't let that affect the love you once shared with each other. Even if you do lose love for each other, because these things do happen try to make things work, strife to win each other back . Ladies pray for your husband, he needs you more than you may ever know. Men have the tendency to mask their feelings so that they don't appear to be weak but deep down inside they have hidden feelings too. Don't leave your man (80) for a temporary fling (20). If he's making an attempt to be better encourage him, if he feels like he can't do it, make him feel like he can. Don't forget what you told God on the day you said I do ", on that day of judgement God will play back the oath you made and will check to see if you fulfilled it that's why marriage should be taken very seriously.

To The Women who are engaged or are in a relationship? 
In this case scenario you are in a much better position because you can choose to leave if you notice that something isn't adding up or if you are feeling overwhelmed. This period is the most crucial time because this is the decision-making stage. Please make sure that you don't let anything cloud your judgement and both of you should stay true to yourselves, so that there aren't any surprises after the two of you shared your vows. During this time  pray and seek the Lord to confirm what his " perfect will" is for you ,that is of course if you really want to. If God is showing you signs that he is not good for you, please do yourself and your future generation a favor....... LEAVE!!!
Bad marriages do not have a sweet-endings attached to it, leave before it's too late. Don't be easily  deceived and distracted, there are probably going to be other men that want you too irrespective of whether you are engaged, in a relationship or not. During this time the devil loves to send "mirages" and most especially to  materialistic women. Please look beyond his car, his body, his money and material things, actually know for sure if this man is the one for you before making any lifetime commitment. Avoid distractions and distractors focus on your future with your husband- to- be, don't leave him for those mirages that appear to be real, when in reality it's fake, only leave because God is telling you that he is not the one for you otherwise you may end up in a really bad marriage. Remember that the "20 man" has no true intention of staying committed to you, he probably wants you for your body, money, vulnerability etc. You deserve better  and that "80" (your man) is the best gift that God has given to you, now that depends on whether you are married according to God's perfect will. So make the best out of it.Even if you married under his "permissive will" make the most out of it. If found this post helpful share it with others.       
  Remained Blessed.

Judging vs Correcting

Let's define these two words for a minute, what does it mean to correct
According to dictionary.com, correct means free from error, in accordance with fact or truth, put right. The definition of judging- form an opinion or conclusion. Urban dictionary defines judging as the act of putting a person down, regarding a person as an inferior.
Many people in today's world have this new catch phrase "stop judging me". Since I have taken out some time to define what it means to judge let me ask this question. If I see a person today and I see this individual smoking a cigar and I walk up to her/him and say  hey why are you smoking, don't you know it's bad for you? have I judged the person?
Some might say "Yes" reason is because I don't know this person on a personal level and it is not in my place to walk up to this person and ask them anything or tell them what to do and what not to do.
Some might say "No" reason is because I asked a question and simply did this out of concern. We live in a society where we only care about ourselves, we no longer take time out to look out for each other. If my main objective was to judge this individual I wouldn't have asked why this person was smoking or have mentioned that it is bad for him/her I would have simply said "you're a bad person for smoking, because you don't even realize what you are doing to yourself, you don't realize how you are slowly dying and you're probably not thinking about how this will effect your loved ones, you must be a selfish human being for smoking". By saying this I have judged this individual spitefully and should I have said that I would have displayed a false depiction of  God's love. God did not call us to condemn he called us to correct others with love, to lift others up, to share his gospel that he has died to save us from our sins and to show a true example of what being his child on earth truly is.
 I once had a person who I was friends with on FaceBook ( few days ago) and I noticed how he kept posting some freaky post that kept appearing on my timeline. Initially I reported the post and hid it, but after getting weary of doing so, I decided to ask him privately via (Direct Message) why he kept doing that and let me just put it this way he got really offended with me and blocked me. The funny thing here is that I didn't quote scriptures to him as some over-spiritual people would have done, neither did I curse him out I simply asked a question him " why do you keep posting freaky stuff?'
his response was nasty and unnecessary in the end he blocked me. I didn't get to say more than that but in the end, I was able to convey a message to him for the mere fact that he got defensive about my question it tells me that he was pricked in his conscience and inherently knew that what he was posting was not good otherwise he could have just ignored me or would have responded differently. but then again, maybe I asked him at a bad time, who knows?. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 
What does the scriptures say about judging I will post it below
Matthew 7:1 Judge Not that ye be not judged, it is not in my place as a child of God to judge a single person on this earth no matter how bad or good the person may appear or be. However, this doesn't mean that when I see something wrong or bad that I should keep mute about it. Wouldn't you like someone to help you when you need help? Wouldn't it be better for someone to show you the right way to do something? Jesus did not judge the promiscuous women who slept with that married man. However he did correct her, he told her to go and sin no more. In others words you are free, I will not use your past mistakes against you but don't go to that man's house or any other man's house and do it again. Go and sin no more. He saved her from being killed, Jesus died for us so that we wouldn't have to die and pay the price for our sins.
 We should learn to take correction, that is the only way we can grow and learn. If nobody tells me that i'm making a mistake, I will probably do it again and again.  In addition to this don't use correction as a leverage to boss others, if you must correct a person, do it with the love of Christ, if this person does not receive you let it go and move on. You can't save everybody because not everybody wants to be saved. Those that will listen  will listen and those that won't, simply won't.
Jesus loves you never forget that 

My Past Post

I have taken some time to read some of the post I made in the previous years and let me just say this I was absolutely amazed at how "over spiritual" I was in some of my posts. The only reason why I will not be deleting it is because I want you all to see my growth and how I have changed for the better. There are certain things now that I no longer say anymore and will probably not say except if God instructs me to say it. If I offended you in any of my previously post I would like to apologize for it.

80/20 Program (Men)

Many people have the tendency of leaving an 80 for a 20. So the question is what is the 80/20 program. It is a strategy of the enemy (the devil) to deter men from loving their partner and makes them leave their wives, some future wife and for some their girlfriend depending on the relationship of the man for a lady who appears to look better than their partner. In the process of the man chasing after this lady (20) he loses both the 20 and the 80 (wife, fiance, or girlfriend). 
Ultimately we can say that this strategy is to make the man lose out completely. Here is what you need to know. The devil knows the fastest way to bring down a man and do you want to guess what he uses? the woman read the book of Genesis to confirm this fact. The downfall or the rise of any man is a woman whether it be his wife, his sister or his mother.

Here is my advice: If you feel that the woman you are with is not good enough you need to ask yourself why? why are you suddenly losing interest in her. Was your intentions of being in a relationship an act of infatuation, was it real? If yes what do you think could be causing you to lose your love for her? Is it because she doesn't dress well, or used to but no longer dresses well, is it due to her attitude, her smell ? her hair? find out exactly why you are losing interest in her and address it. What I have observed in this generation is that when something gets too difficult we tend to give up and leave rather than persevering and trying to make things work. If after addressing these issues with her and these problems are still lingering, do you know what you should do next? Present these issues before God your creator, ask God to help her with these problems that she is having. The devil perhaps is playing mind games with her, unknown to you perhaps he is filling her head with lies and her self-esteem is depleting , she could probably be suffering from depression. Find out for yourself don't begin to bring her down with your words or your actions. Look at what the scripture says 

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it  Ephesians 5:25. Remember the good times, don't be in a hurry to chase after the 20. Women under this category are women who don't mind sleeping with married men, women who have no class and women who lack self-control.These women are temporal and have no intentions on being with you for the true reasons, just the superficial.Try to keep the love alive no matter the cost. Remember Jesus loves you and laid down his life for you, transfer that love to your wife and she will turn around. Don't lose faith. Stay tuned for my next post where I will talk about the 80/20 program aimed at the women.